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The BS Machine: Umair Haque gets it

I recently read a piece on medium titled , and it was one of those articles that every subsequent sentence and paragraph I was just jumping higher and higher into the air shouting “Yes! Yes!”.

I will highlight the parts that really jumped out at me to share with you:

A culture that prizes narcissism above individualism. A politics that places “tolerance” above acceptance. A spirit that encourages cynicism over reverence. A public sphere that places irony over sincerity. A technosophy that elevates “data” over understanding. A society that puts “opportunity” before decency.

To be bored isn’t to be indifferent. It is to be fatigued. Because one is exhausted. And that is precisely where—and only where—the values above lead us. To exhaustion; with the ceaseless, endless, meaningless work of maintaining the fiction. Of pretending that who we truly want to be is what everyone believes everyone else wants to be. Liked, not loved; “attractive”, not beautiful; clever, not wise; snarky, not happy; advantaged, not prosperous.

Let me simplify that tiny model of the stalemate the human heart can reach with life. The bullshit machine is the work we do only to live lives we don’t want, need, love, or deserve.

Everything’s work now. Relationships; hobbies; exercise. Even love. Gruelling; tedious; unrelenting; formulaic; passionless; calculated; repetitive; predictable; analysed; mined; timed; performed.

That’s the battery that powers the bullshit machine. We’re not allowed to admit it: that we’re bored. We’ve always got to be doing something. Always always always. Tapping, clicking, meeting, partying, exercising, networking, “friending”. Work hard, play hard, live hard. Improve. Gain. Benefit. Realize.

It’s something like a slot-machine of the human soul, this culture we’re building. The jackpot’s just another coin away…forever. Who wouldn’t be seduced by that?

And therein is the paradox of the bullshit machine. We do more than humans have ever done before. But we are not accomplishing much; and we are, it seems to me, becoming even less than that.

Why? We are something like apparitions today; juggling a multiplicity of selves through the noise; the “you” you are on Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, Tinder…wherever…at your day job, your night job, your hobby, your primary relationship, your friend-with-benefits, your incredibly astonishing range of extracurricular activities. But this hyperfragmentation of self gives rise to a kind of schizophrenia; conflicts, dissocations, tensions, dislocations, anxieties, paranoias, delusions. Our social wombs do not give birth to our true selves; the selves explosive with capability, possibility, wonder. [emphasis added]

It made me really stop and think, yes I feel like I’m locked in this gravitational orbit with my job, I can’t break free, the workday is like the winter of my daily year, and my hometime (“free time”) is the summer. But the summers are 港股开户 always shorter and always frantically crammed with stuff. The winter seems endless and takes forever to pass. Only when you start to realize the temperature is actually climbing again each day (ie around 4pm in the workday) do you start to anticipate and excite.

It’s so hard to break out of that track and live your life on your own terms, but I’m still determined to find a way.

“How to escape the Death Valley of Education”

I just attended a discussion group last night, the title of which was “How Should We Learn?”. Regular readers of this blog will know this is a question and topic near and dear to my heart. I will be writing more about this in the future.

Before the discussion, we watched Ken Robinson’s most recent TED Talk, which I had not seen, but I liked it enough that I just spent 90 minutes typing out a transcript to share here. I did the same previously with a related TED Talk: “Hackschooling Makes Me Happy” by Logan LaPlante, a 13 year old who had applied the “alternative education” methods that Ken talks about. Ken himself is most known for his prior TED Talk, “Do Schools Kill Creativity?”, which is the most watched TED Talk of all time.

I will be sharing my thoughts and takeaways from the actual discussion group later in another post, but for now, the video, and transcript:

When I got here [to America], I was told various things, like: “Americans don’t get irony”.

It’s not true, I’ve traveled all over this country and I’ve found no evidence that American’s don’t get irony.

It’s one of those cultural myths. Like, “the British are reserved”. I don’t know why people think this. We’ve invaded every country we’ve encountered.

But it’s not true that Americans don’t get irony, I just wanted you to know what’s what people are saying about you behind your back.

But I knew that Americans get irony when I came across that legislation “No child left behind”. Because whoever thought of that title, gets irony. Because it’s leaving millions of children behind.

Now I can see that that’s not an attractive name for legislation, “Millions of children left behind”. What’s the plan? well we propose to leave millions of children behind. And here’s how it’s going to work, and it’s working beautifully.

In some parts of the country, 60% of kids drop out of high school. In the native american communities, it’s eighty percent. If we halved that number, one estimate is that we would have a net gain to the US economy over 10 years, of nearly a trillion dollars.

From an economic point of view, this is good math, isn’t it? That we should do this. It actually costs an enormous amount to mop up the damage from the drop out crisis. But the dropout crisis is just the tip of the iceberg. What it doesn’t count is all the kids who are in school but being disengaged from it, who don’t enjoy it, who don’t get any real benefit from it.

And the reason is, not because we’re not spending enough money on it, America spends more on education than most other countries, class sizes are smaller than in many countries, and there are hundreds of initiatives every year to try and improve education.

The trouble is, it’s all going in the wrong direction.

There are three principles under which human life flourishes, and they are contradicted by the culture of education under which most teachers have to labour and most students have to endure.

The first is this, that human beings are naturally different and diverse. Can I ask you how many of you have got children of your own? Grandchildren? Two children or more? And the rest of you have seen such children? Small people wandering about?

I will make you a bet, and I am confident that I will win the bet. If you’ve got two children or more, I bet you they are completely different from each other, aren’t they? You would never confuse them, would you? Like which one are you? Remind me. Your mother and I are going to introduce some colour coding system so we don’t get confused.

No child left behind is not based on diversity, but on conformity. What schools are encouraged to do is to find out what kids can do across a very narrow spectrum of achievement.

One of the effects of NCLB has been to narrow the focus onto the so called STEM disciplines, they’re very important. Now I’m not here to argue against science and math, on the contrary, they’re very important. They’re necessary, but they’re not sufficient. A real education has to give equal weight to the arts, humanities, to physical education…

One estimate in America currently is that something like 10% of kids getting on that way are being diagnosed with various conditions under the broad title of ADHD. I’m not saying there’s no such thing, I just don’t believe it’s an epidemic like this.

If you sit kids down, hour after hour, doing low grade clerical work, don’t be surprised if they start to fidget.

Children are not, for the most part are not suffering from a psychological condition, they’re suffering from “childhood”. And I know this, because I spent my early life as a child, I went through the whole thing.

Kids prosper best with a broad spectrum, that celebrates their various talents, not just a small range of them. By the way, the arts aren’t just important because they improve math scores, they’re important because they speak to parts of children’s being which are otherwise untouched.

The second principle that drives human life flourishing, is curiosity. If you can light the spark of curiosity in a child, they will learn without any further assistance, very often. Children are natural learners. It’s a real achievement to put that particular ability out, or to stifle it.

Curiosity is the engine of achievement. The reason I say this is because one of the effects of the current culture here, has been to de-professionalize teachers. There is no system in the world, or any school in the country, that is better than its teachers. Teachers are the lifeblood of the success of schools. But teaching is a creative profession. Teaching, properly conceived, is not a delivery system, you’re not there just to pass on received information. Great teachers do that, but what great teachers also do is mentor, stimulate, provoke, engage.

See, in the end, education is about learning. If there’s no learning going on, there’s no education going on. And people can spend an awful lot of time discussing education without ever discussing learning. The whole point of education is to get people to learn.

An old friend of mine, he used to talk about the difference between the task, and achievement senses of verbs. You know, you can be engaging in the activity of something, but not really “achieving” it. It’s like dieting, as a very good example. There he is, he’s dieting. Is he losing any weight? Not really.

Teaching is a word like that. You could have said, there’s Debra, she’s in room 34, she’s teaching. But if no one is learning anything, she can be engaged in the task of teaching, but not really fulfilling it. The role of a teacher is to facilitate learning. That’s it. And part of the problem is, I think, that the dominant culture of education has come to focus on not teaching and learning, but testing.

Now, testing is important, standardized tests have a place. But they should not be the dominant culture of education, they should be diagnostic, they should help.

If I go for a medical examination, I want some standardized tests. I do. I want to know what my cholesterol level is, compared to everybody else’s, on a standard scale. I don’t want to be told on some scale that my doctor invented in the car. “Your cholesterol is what I call ‘level orange'”. Is that good? ‘We don’t know.’

But all that should support learning, it shouldn’t obstruct it, which of course it often does. So in place of curiosity, what we often have is a culture of compliance. Our children and teachers are encouraged to follow kind of routine algorithms, rather than to excite that power, of imagination, and curiosity.

And the third principle is this, human life is inherently creative. It’s why we all have different resumes. We create our lives, and we can re-create them as we go through them. It’s the common currency of being a human being. It’s why human culture is so interesting, and diverse, and dynamic.

I mean other animals may well have imaginations and creativity, but it’s not such much in evidence, is it, as ours? But you may have a dog, and your dog may get depressed, but it doesn’t listen to Radiohead, does it? Sit staring out the window with a bottle of Jack Daniels? And you say “would you like to come for a walk?” and he says “nah, I’m fine. You go, I’ll wait. But take pictures.”

We all create our own lives through this restless process of imagining alternatives and possibilities. And what one of the rules of education is is to awake and develop these powers of creativity. Instead what we have is a culture of standardization.

Now, it’s doesn’t have to be this way. It really doesn’t.

Finland regularly comes out on top in math, science, and reading. Now we only know that’s what they do well at because that’s all that’s being tested currently, that’s one of the problems of the tests, they don’t look for others things that matter just as much.

The thing about working in Finland is this. They don’t obsess about those disciplines, they have a very broad approach to education which includes humanities, physical education, the arts. Second, there is no standardized testing, in Finland. I mean, there’s a bit, but it’s not what gets people up in the morning, it’s not what keeps them at their desks. And the third thing, I was in a meeting recently with some people from Finland, actual Finnish people, and somebody from the American system was saying to someone from the Finnish system “what do you do about the dropout rate in Finland?”.

And they all looked bemused and said “well, we don’t have one. Why would you drop out?” If people are in trouble, we get to them quite quickly and help them out and support them.

Now, people always say well you can’t compare Finland to America. No, [you’re right], there’s a population of around 5 million in Finland. But you can compare it to a state, in America.

Many states in America have fewer people than that. I mean i’ve been to some states in America, and I was the only person there. Really, and I was asked to lock up when I left. But what all the high performing systems in the world do, currently, is what is not evident, sadly, across the systems in America, I mean as whole.

One is this – they individualize teaching, and learning. They recognize that it’s students who are learning, and the system has to engage them, and their curiosity, their individuality, and their creativity. That’s how you get them to learn,

The second is that they attribute a very high status to the teaching profession. They recognize that you can’t improve education if you don’t pay great people to teach and if you don’t keep giving them constant support and professional development. Investing in professional development is not a cost, it’s an investment. And every other country that’s succeeding well knows that whether it’s Australia, Canada, South Korea, Singapore, Hong Kong or Shanghai, they know that to be the case.

And the third is, they devolve responsibility to the school level, for getting the job done. You see there’s a big difference here, between going into a mode of command and control in education. That’s what happens in some systems, central governments or state governments decide they know best and they’re going to tell you what to do.

The trouble is that education doesn’t go on in the committee rooms of our legislative buildings, it happens in classrooms and schools. And the people who do it, are the teachers and the students. And if you remove their discretion, it stops working. You have to put it back to the people.

There is wonderful work happening in this country, but I must say it’s happening in spite of the dominant culture, not because of it. It’s like people are sailing into a headwind all the time.

And the reason I think is this, that many of the current policies are based on machinistic conceptions of education. It’s like education is an industrial process, that can be improved just by having better data, and I think somewhere in the back of the mind of some policy makers, is this idea that if we fine tune it well enough, if we just get it right, it will all hum along perfectly into the future.

It won’t, and it never did.

The point is, that education is not a mechanical system, it’s a human system. It’s about people. People who either do want to learn, or don’t want to learn.

Every student who drops out of school, has a reason for it. Which is rooted in their own biography. They may find it boring, they may find it irrelevant, they may find that it’s at odds with the life they’re living outside of school. There are trends, but the stories are always unique.

I was at a meeting recently in Los Angeles, of, they’re called “Alternative Education Programs”, these are programs designed to get kids back into education. They have certain common features, they’re very personalized, they have strong support for the teachers, close links with the community, and a broad and diverse curriculum. Often programs which involve students outside school as well as inside school.

And they work.

What’s interesting to me is these are called “alternative” education. And all the evidence from around the world is that if we all did that, there would be no need for the alternative.

So I think we need to embrace a different metaphor. We have to recognize that it’s a human system and there are conditions under which people thrive. And conditions under which they don’t. We are all after all, organic creatures.

And the culture of the school is absolutely essential. Culture is an organic term, isn’t it?

Not far from where I live, there’s a place called “Death Valley”. Death Valley is the hottest, driest place in America, and nothing grows there. Nothing grows there because it doesn’t rain. Hence death valley.

In the winter of 2004, it rained in Death Valley. Seven inches of rain fell over a very short period. And in the spring of 2005, there was a phenomenon. The whole floor of Death Valley, was carpeted in flowers. For a while. What it proved is this, that Death Valley isn’t dead. It’s dormant. Right beneath the surface are these seeds of possibility, waiting for the right conditions to come about.

And with organic systems, with the right conditions, life is inevitable. It happens all the time. You take an area, a school, a district, you change the conditions, give people a different sense of possibility, a different set of expectations, a broader range of opportunities, you cherish and value the relationships between teachers and learners, you offer people discretion to be creative and to innovate in what they do, and schools that were once bereft, spring to life.

Great leaders know that. The real role of leadership in education, and I think it’s true at the national level, the state level, and the school level, is not and should not be command and control.

The real role of leadership is climate control. Creating a climate of possibility. And if you do that, people will rise to it, and achieve things that you completely did not anticipate and couldn’t have expected.

There’s a wonderful quote from Benjamin Franklin, there are 3 sorts of people in the world. People who are immovable. People who don’t get it, they don’t want to get it, they’re not doing anything about it. There are people who are moveable, people who see the need for change and are prepared to listen to it, and there are people who move. People who make things happen. And if we can encourage more people, that will be a movement. And if the movement is strong enough, that’s in the best sense of the word – a revolution.

And that’s what we need.

I found it very interesting that Ken used a metaphor such as teachers labouring in an “unsympathetic environment”, because Temple Grandin used a very similar choice of words in her book where she wrote “Aspies labouring in non-ideal environments”.

“I’m just handing out sticks, you’re the one surviving”

Came across this via social media recently (original), and loved it so much I had to share it. Having been to see a therapist/counsellor during a couple of rough times in my life, I am 100% in favour of seeking help when you feel you need it, and not being ashamed of it.

giving-out-sticksI don’t like the phrase “a cry for help”. I just don’t like how it sounds. When someone says to me, “I’m thinking about suicide, I have a plan: I just need a reason not to do it,” the last thing I see is helplessness.

I think: Your depression has been beating you up for years. It has called you ugly, and stupid, and pathetic, and a failure, for so long that you’ve forgotten that it’s wrong. You don’t see any good in yourself, and you don’t have any hope.

But still, here you are: You’ve come over to me, banged on my door, and said “Hey! Staying alive is REALLY HARD right now! Just give me something to fight with! I don’t care it it’s a stick! Give me a stick and I can stay alive!”

How is that helpless? I think that’s incredible. You’re like a marine: trapped for years behind enemy lines, your gun has been taken away, you’re out of ammo, you’re malnourished, and you’ve probably caught some kind of jungle virus that’s making you hallucinate giant spiders. And you’re still just going, “GIVE ME A STICK. I’M NOT DYING OUT HERE.”

“A cry for help” makes it sound like i’m supposed to take pity on you, but you don’t need my pity. This isn’t pathetic. This is the will to survive. This is how humans lived long enough to become the dominant species.

With NO hope, running on NOTHING, you’re ready to cut through a hundred miles of hostile jungle with nothing but a stick, if that’s what it takes to get to safety.

All I’m doing is handing out sticks.

You’re the one staying alive

“The Never-Ending Career/Major Dilemma” aka INFJ problems, aka Scanner problems

Update 2 June 21, 2014 – I’ve come across data that refutes the validity of the MBTI system, so while you are reading this, try to focus more on if you relate to what is being said and less so that it specifically ties to being an INFJ or any specific Myers Briggs Type.

Someone once found this blog using the search term “personality types at a crossroad”. I have no doubt they stumbled onto my first Scanner post. But as when I tried to answer the question “Should a scanner personality type run their own business?” (also a search term that led someone here), I’ve wanted to address this other question as well. And I just found a really good basis for such a post.

In the world of Myers-Briggs, one of many (but the most popular and widely used) personality type tests, I am an INFJ. That means I’m an introverted (though pretty ambiverted now), intuitive, feeling, judging (but not judgemental!) person. I recharge with downtime, I think more abstractly, I make decisions overall based on how I feel or how my actions will affect others, and I prefer structure and predictability (to an extent) in my life. Here is another description of INFJs which is pretty flattering.

There was a discussion on the Puttytribe not too long ago, asking what each person’s type was. I think the IN parts were exceptionally well represented, with J/P being pretty split and F/T also being divided. But, when doing some of my own internet searches recently, I was searching for “what defines an INFJ?” and I found a thread on the forums at INFJs.com titled “The Never Ending Career/Major Dilemma”.

The poster explains:

Everything I look up about my INFJ personality type suggests something along the lines of psychology, teaching, or art. Problem is, I don’t particularly enjoy helping people. I don’t like volunteer work, and in the past couple of years, I’ve become incredibly irritated by the petty problems people seem to have, unless they’re someone close to me, and I have therefore completely eliminated psychology from the list. I absolutely hate teaching and training; I have no patience for it, and I get frustrated when they don’t understand. It isn’t fair of me to become a teacher and get frustrated at the students for something that’s my own issue, so I have eliminated education in all forms (from elementary to the collegiate level). While becoming an artist (particularly a photographer) would be fun, I feel like I’m too lazy and not disciplined enough to take the number of photos I would need and market myself and my photography in order to actually be profitable.

I know exactly where he is coming from. The first reply offered some fantastic insight and advice (quoted at the end of this post), and another thread was linked with that advice really expanded and fleshed out by a different person. The longer version (below) was basically a written description of my entire life thus far. I think this pretty accurately defines what it means to have “scanner problems”:

This is not a definitive guide but just some perspective and realistic outlook on choosing a career or “careers” as an INFJ and the usual obstacles we face as sensitive introverts.

To start let’s just state the obvious well known facts and ideal career parameters for INFJs:

  • Career Autonomy – INFJs thrive best when they have an intellectual freedom to set their working conditions the way they see it fit. Usually a mix of 60% solitary work and 40% interpersonal connections. Going on the extreme end on both of these conditions will create a lot of stress that can affect INFJs negatively in the work environment. Too much solitary work will create interpersonal distance that may cause depression and loneliness and too much human interaction will simply burn out an INFJ.
  • Humanitarian Instinct – INFJs humanitarian instinct is inborn and cannot be ignored nor does it go away over time. In fact; as an INFJ personality develops further into maturity; this humanitarian streak will become more obvious and the urge for full expression may create inner tension. This will be true if you work in a field that does nothing to help or better humanity in general. Younger INFJs may or may nor feel this urge strongly in the beginning; but do keep in mind that it will become an important factor as you grow older.
  • Work Environment – simply put; INFJs will have a hard time working in an corrupt, unorganized, critical, competitive and high stress work environments. INFJs ability to penetrate into the core of any systems or large organizations and seeing clearly where the issues and problems are will help weed out these environments. This is not to say that certain environments such as schools, hospitals or counseling and crisis centers should not be explored; but the built in bureaucracy of failing systems will affect an INFJ and if an INFJ chooses a career in these organizations then they will need to learn grounding and stress management techniques in order to cope and find balance.
  • Intellectual and Creative Challenge – INFJs are natural intellectuals with a desire to learn about subjects that catch their curiosity. Therefore; when choosing a career; intellectual stimulation or the opportunity to advance one’s knowledge base is important. Mundane and routine work will eventually bore an INFJs. The negatives of mundane work will make an INFJ question their role in society and if not careful can lead into hopelessness which leads to a mediocre careers without advancement. Hence it is recommended that INFJs pursue masters or doctorate degrees in fields that can open up intellectual growth opportunities. This will also become important as an INFJ gets older.

Intense Realism to balance the natural Idealist:

Intense realism is the practice of seeing life as is with no filters and covers. Learning to make sound life decisions based on hard reality will always help a natural idealist make better changes in life and career. For career decision making; below factors need to be considered for certain careers you maybe considering:

  • Job outlook – are you choosing a career field that is growing or declining? What types of careers is your generation considering? Just like products and business have life cycles; careers also have life cycles. It should not be looked on with fear but a natural progression of growth. Choose careers that are on the rise for the next 20 to 30 years – expecially fields such as healthcare and technology that offers lots of niche field within a larger field so there are many options to consider.
  • Salary – always do an opportunity cost for your careers. Are you finishing a degree that cost you $40,000 in student debt to be hired as an entry level making $42,000? Is that a fair or normal living standard in your neck of the woods? If you wish to go to masters or doctorate route then is it feasible to get your undergrad in a community college to save money in the long run? Is it worth getting a masters degree for 2 years so you can increase your chances of making a comfortable living 10 to 20 years down the road? INFJs should and need to consider these options as early as possible in their career planning so they have more options in a hectic and unstable economy.
  • Competition – how competitive are the career fields you are considering? Most INFJs love psychology but unless you specialize it is a fairly competitive field to enter into even with a masters. Consider other types of psychology fields that are less competitive like sports psychology or industrial psychology, etc. In order to edge the competition; do research into niche fields that are not widely recognized or advertized. Try your best to not follow the herd if possible.
  • Research – there should be 2 types of very important research needs to be done by INFJs if they are undecided on careers:

  1. Shadow a professional in their work environment for few days to get a clear idea of that career field and ask lots of questions. If that is not possible; find professional career forums in a particular field you are considering and browse their forums. Read about the job satisfaction; issues those professionals face, how much they make, etc and see if anything you find appeals or discourages your interests.
  2. Go and experience them yourself. Internships and volunteer experiences will shed light on certain careers. There are lots of resources to consider when researching a career. This experience will be better than asking people what you should do as a career from people that does not know you on the internet.

Final Advice:

My final advice is to choose careers that takes into the INFJ personality career parameters I discussed earlier with that of the realistic career changes that are happening worldwide. Find a good balance where an INFJs natural tendencies are honored as well as the ability to thrive in career fields that are going to grow and expand in the future. Don’t be afraid to explore unkown career niches and also to expand your knowledge with a higher educational degrees.

Also follow your GOALS not your passions. Goals in a nutshell will entail the type of lifestyle you wish to live. Consider all the details of this lifestyle and what you will or will not do to make it happen. 

Passion and interest can bring joy into our lives but they do not always translate into a well paying and flexible career that can cater to the INFJ personality. Unless you are super talented in your chosen field and have the time and resources to make your dream a reality then good luck to you. Most people can benefit from a stable and comfortable careers that gives them 70% to 80% fulfillment and satisfaction in life while also giving them time to explore and pursue their hobbies and interests on the side as well as providing for their families and living expenses. Understand that your life circumstances and needs will be different when you are in your 20’s, 30’s and 40’s and making sound decisions based on these considerations can save some people a lot of headache and pain later in life. 

I wish I could figure out who wrote that, I can’t determine the person behind the profile, but I want to send them a whopping THANK YOU.

Now, despite the puttytribe being one example of how it’s not necessarily true that there is a defacto “scanner type”, perhaps INFJs go a little deeper on feeling/experiencing the difficulties outlined. I also think it gives a lot of great insight and advice to anyone experiencing those issues, arguably better than my own recent attempt. Some of those answers I figured out on my own through years of trial and error, and frustration.

Sometimes we get lucky and we find the pivotal answers we seek early in our search, other times we may be looking for years or decades until I we find that “aha!” piece of wisdom or insight. I’ve found some answers quickly, and others much later. But between the faster answers and the more delayed ones, I’ve managed to do alright on the overall. It has just taught me to keep reading, exploring, asking questions, and getting better at figuring out what leads to follow and which ones will trail off.

It doesn’t hurt that I know at least a few other people doing the same kind of thing. I’d say at least 80% of the things I post about on here are things that friends of mine or people I know, share, that I read and think are worth sharing here as well.

Here is the shorter version, directed at the poster of the original thread:

I’m going to tell you something that I wish someone told me seven years ago. You don’t “find” passion. You cultivate it. There is no such thing as the ‘right’ career for you and there’s no destiny or personality theory litmus test involved in the process. You can find something you love in every single one of those choices, just as you’ll find something you’ll hate in each. No job is perfect. What it all comes down to is which one of these careers is going to give you the practical means to lead the lifestyle you want. Start with the basic parameters. Consider the salary you’d like to make (how much money would you need per year to be comfortable?), the amount of hours you’d work, the training it’d take, the environment you’d work in, or whether or not you’d be comfortable living out in the wilderness for x number of months in a year away from family and friends (such as is the case with field work in geology). Do you want to settle down and have a family one day? How much will your job depend on networking? How much will licensing cost per year? Is there a future in the industry? 

At this point you also need to consider all that you know about yourself by now. If you have learned that you’re not a self-starter and you can’t function without structure or a steady pay-cheque, you’re probably not going to do well in a freelance position. If you’re not comfortable helping people, as you said, well, you won’t be all to happy in a teaching or service position. If you’re not a risk-taker/very sensitive to rejection, don’t go into sales. 

What I would do in your shoes is that I would interview as many people as possible who work in each of those fields. Ask them pro’s and con’s. Amass a huge list of information and differing perspectives. There is just no substitute for talking to someone who has been there, done that and who has insider knowledge into what it’s like to be in the field–but make sure you ask a variety of people so you’re not getting just one individual bias. 

At the end of the day, however, keep in mind that a job is a job and that’s where you have to do a cost-benefit analysis and figure out what sorts of things you can live with and what sorts of things you absolutely cannot compromise. One way or another we all have to work, we all have to pay the bills. I’m not saying that you should go for the job that pays the most… but at the same time, I kind of am. So long as you can marginally stand it, it will at least allow you to enjoy life outside of work.

For INFJs and Scanners alike, I feel like those 4 paragraphs kind of nail it on the head.

I will say, I also regularly enjoy reading www.reddit.com/r/infj. The questions – and answers – tend to be very thoughtful, honest, and insightful. Even if you aren’t an INFJ, if you want to learn about self-awareness and see how people who are really tuned into themselves think and act, that’s a great place to do some reading. People also go there to ask for advice, either if their partner is an INFJ and confusing/frustrating them, or if they are INFJ and struggling with their non INFJ partner.

Actually, it just occured to me – I’ve always strongly related to the traits bestowed onto people who are Pisces. But Astrology is basically bunk, so I had to accept that years ago. It only just hit me, that many of the same traits attributed to INFJs are also attributed to Pisceans. Huh.

So, whoever searched for my blog with that search term, I hope you found some answers. Next time, this post will be ready and waiting to hopefully give you some.

Taking a closer look at two social concepts

I have found a new blog that has at least two really good articles, and most likely more. The blog is by a guy who goes by the name “The Ferret”. The articles are “How to be a good depressive citizen” and “The Myth Of Nobody Can Make You Feel Bad Without Your Permission”.

In the former, he talks about a post by Author Libby Bray, where she talks about having depression, but does so in a careful way, as he explains, to avoid being labelled a “Bad Depressive Citizen”.

He explains:

Now, the gold standard for a writer suffering from depression is to Not Say Anything. Spend all that sadness with your mouth firmly shut. Then, after months of hard-pent silence, as you are emerging from the depression and find yourself in a place that you can properly control yourself, you write a Very Articulate Post detailing your pain…

…but do it from a distance. Write about it in a sad, somber tone. Do not evince an ounce of self-pity. Hold this odious disease at a distance. End it with a triumphant note that yes, you too can fight back!

Because God help you if you write your depressive post when you’re actually depressed, and uncertain if you’re going to make it. That worries people. You don’t want to write about yourself in a way that gets your audience concerned about you, because then you’ll just have told a bunch of people that maybe you’re not okay. And what will they do then? How will they rest until you’re in a stable place?

That’s rude. Button that s*** up, depressive person.

He goes on to talk about how there is basically a stigma around depression and that it is really only acceptable to talk about in a certain light, which would make it a lot harder for the person with depression to cope and deal with it. It’s very interesting, and enlightening, since I have not suffered from depression but I know a few who have.

I think we definitely need to work towards breaking stigma so that people with depression can come forward and get the help they need without being made to feel worse that they can’t just “be happier”.

The other post is about the idea that you can magically choose to not let anything bother you, if you don’t want it to. In a perfect world, sure. But this isn’t a perfect world.

He writes:

Now, first off, “shrugging off other people’s insults and accusations” is a learned skill. If you’ve ever raised a kid, you know most of them don’t come pre-baked with the “Eh, whatever” switch – if you yell at them, they cry. If other kids make fun of them, they get upset. Actually placing the “Okay, they’re mocking you, but do you respect their opinion?” switch in place is a process that takes years, requires a healthy ego on the kid’s part, and isn’t 100% successful.

So expecting everyone to have that skill is kinda jerky. Admittedly, it’s a vital skill that everyone should actively cultivate – without it, abusers can emotionally manipulate you into the most awful of situations by pressing your “guilt” button whenever you complain about valid stuff.

But not everyone had nice parents. Not everyone’s discovered how to interrupt their emotions with logic. And as such, sneering, “Well, you chose to feel bad” isn’t actually true. They have yet to develop a barrier between the onrush of primal feelings and the rationality to say, “Wait, no, that’s actually something I shouldn’t feel.”

It’s funny (but not actually ‘funny’), because just a few weeks ago, I made the comment on a public forum that getting teased/bullied isn’t 100% terrible because it forces you to grow as a person and there are some pretty prolific examples of people who did just that – they took the worst that people could throw at them, and turned it into motivation to do more with their lives than those people ever will. Here’s one example. But I realized shortly after, how ludicrous it was for me to suggest that. I mean, I was bullied relentlessly growing up. I honestly only had 3 friends in grade school, and one of them turned on me later when he managed to tap into a bit of coolness himself. It took me a long time to build up my character from that. My parents didn’t help a lot. But just because I got lucky enough to grow into being at peace with myself, doesn’t mean everyone does. And we shouldn’t expect them to by default.

One more bit:

But when you say, “Well, nobody can make you feel bad without your permission!”, that sets up a world where you have no responsibility for your speech. Were you digging for weak spots, mocking to make a point? Oh, hey, well, you were trying your damndest to make them feel bad, but if it worked it’s their fault for not having sufficient defenses. It’s not 100% correlation, but when I see “Nobody can make you feel bad!” I usually find a taunting dillweed nearby, taking potshots from the brush and then claiming no responsibility.

I was just thinking the other day, that phrase “life isn’t fair, get over it”, is pretty much only true in certain instances. It shouldn’t be used as an excuse to be an inconsiderate jerk. Life can be more fair. That part is up to each of us.

I’ve realized I post a lot about social stuff on here, life lessons and wisdom, because I am trying to be a better person, and I want to share what I find that I think helps with that. I hope you get some benefit from it as well.

But The Ferret is very right in both cases, so please go read the full posts.

“When Clever Quotes Don’t Hold Up”
“Don’t be afraid to be wrong, be afraid to not know better”

Inspiring ways to cope with loss

We often praise artists for finding creative and inspiring ways to look at and deal with loss and tragedy, to take a bit of the sting out of the sadness of death, war and other dark aspects of life and humanity, and replace it with at least a little bit more hopeful, forgiving, acceptance.

Here is another such project which is really beautiful so I wanted to share it.

“A Celebration Of A Mom’s Love, This Father-Daughter Photo Series Will Rip Your Heart Apart”

In 2009, newlyweds Ben and Ali Nunery — dressed in their finest wedding regalia — posed in their new, as-yet unfurnished home in Cincinnati, Ohio, for wedding album photos. Ben’s new sister-in-law, Melanie Pace, a professional photographer, snapped a series of gorgeous pictures of the young couple. “Those images represent some of the happiest moments in my life,” Ben wrote on his blog. “It was the beginning of what we planned on being a long and happy life together.”

Sadly, however, this wasn’t to be. The couple was soon informed that Ali had a rare form of lung cancer. In 2011, just a year after their daughter, Olivia, was born, the young mom — then just 31 — passed away.

But this year, Ben says he is finally ready to say goodbye to that house, one so full of memories — both sad and sweet. He knew, however, that he and Olivia couldn’t just move out without marking the occasion in some way. So he called his sister-in-law again, in the hopes that she would help him recreate the photographs he once took with Ali. This time, he would pose with 3-year-old Olivia, the other love of his life.

Get a tissue ready, this is a real tear-jerker.

(EDIT – forgot to actually link to the article originally, I have fixed this)

If biology is software, is prejudice faulty code?

I was watching a video on YouTube the other day, where Ray Kurzweil was being interviewed. He made a comment that got me thinking.

He says (just after the 19:00 mark) “all of biology is now understood as basically software”, which seems accurate what with sequencing the human genome and DNA being a set of code/genetic instructions. Ray says that technology is moving towards “patching” human biology software.

This caught my attention because I remembered seeing a news story not that long ago about a pill that can reduce in-built racism. People largely complained that it relieved a person of the personal responsibility to have to work on themselves and to get over their racism by coming to understand why racism is wrong in the first place. If you can just take a pill, you don’t learn anything, you don’t grow as a person.

This got me thinking, what if bigotry and prejudice stems from essentially faulty biological software? Continue reading